Sunday, November 12, 2006
She said she notices "layered" messages. The surface message, which obeys social rules and seemingly offers concern, compassion, and the like. Then, there's the covered-over but impossible-to-hide, subtler messages that are louder than the socially dictated one. Things like intention, how the person currently sees her, and how he tends to see her habitually. Don't forget the ambivalences.